Mark Gillett

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Joining The Dots….

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A group of youths who needed to repair their picture...They trekked 150 km across the Sinai

The last few posts have created quite a few questions which I always like…..  James Cracknell’s article, beliefs, limiting beliefs, motivation and what is your chronic injury…? These are all inextricably linked to the title of todays post; Joining The Dots.

I spoke with Carlyle of Prohab Performance yesterday who asked what this weeks posts were about…  I responded with “why?” His reply was “I asked my clients how they would know if life was a success? The answers were obviously very mixed but the overriding observation was the a lack of clarity.

If we take look at someone like James Cracknell who seems to have all his ducks in a row and most would say leads a successful happy life; he has just had a huge life experience that has knocked one or more of those ducks down. Shaken his success, maybe his belief too. His accident in America where he was knocked of his bike during another endurance attempt will make him evaluate seriously. Before, all was good with his tv career blossoming, work was fun, exciting and so on. He was shaping his role as super endurance hero but this came with a price. His family watched him in a hospital bed for a week in the US before he woke up. His wife must have gone through hell with two children and the man of her dreams seemingly too ill to recover. But he has recovered and is now almost as strong as ever but re positioning his ducks….  Or rejoining his ‘dots’. Then there is his wife too who has now to rebuild her mindset having had to deal with potential disaster in her family.

The balance between work, family, life is very fragile and one that needs constant care and attention. If something goes wrong or feels bad it needs to be adjusted in the same way as your car will go for a service if you feel it spluttering. If one of its components does not function or the red light comes on then it goes in garage straight away. Why do we not take care of ourselves in the same way?

We as humans have no dashboard with a red light to warn us. We let things go and think they will sort themselves out but we have to be aware of the warning signs and take action when there is something not quite right. If we are to feel success and happiness we need to maintain our own being better than we maintain our cars but so few of us do..

James has realised what his family went through seeing him near to death. He wants things to change and I am sure he will action this. He does not want his family to see that again. His family does not want to see that again.

For others it could be that work is not what it should be. No more enjoyment or fulfilment. No more desire. For the next person it might be their fitness or health. And for the next divorce. Whatever it is if it’s not functioning correctly it will have an effect on the rest of the “being”.

Remember that first join the dots picture you did? You see nothing but as you carefully join each number and try to workout the picture, the tease of the game becomes easier with careful drawing. Slowly the picture becomes so clear and guessing no longer is a part of the game.

Your life is no different. If you join your dots, your belief strengthens, you limiting beliefs become weaker, your days become more productive and your performance more true. You begin to see the picture of success. You become happy.

What is critical to remember is that your being is unique. Your picture will never be the same as someone else’s. It might be similar but never the same… Enjoy joining your dots and if you need help its normal to get it as you would with your car……

Next piece is where do these limiting beliefs come from…..?

Mark Gillett

Prohab Performance

Written by markgillett

September 21, 2010 at 8:15 am

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  1. Great post Mark, well considered and said.

    Andy McMenemy

    September 21, 2010 at 2:35 pm

    • Hi Andy,

      Thanks for this. Be interested on your comments on the others I have posted recently. Been getting some good stuff from them and its good to have other coaches commenting or critiquing so go ahead when you have time…. How are things going with your prep?


      September 21, 2010 at 2:47 pm

  2. bloody hell mark, i can;t keep up, i am now one post behind.

    I like the idea of joining the dots, this refocussing james is going through is interesting, a couple of autobiographies stand out for me in relation to this, McEnroe, Ranulf Fiennes and Armstrong are good examples of this, they are all outstanding in their field yet show no contrition or acknowledgement of how their behaviour affected other people, provided they hit their sporting aim they all seemed remarkably uninterested in the cost to others., to me not a very pleasant attribute.

    going back to the aquisition of belief, just read a really interesting article on acquisition of skills which i would be interested in your thoughts on.. pages 34/35


    September 22, 2010 at 1:00 pm

  3. Yes, I have interviewed Mac or been in an interview room with him. He cares for no one…. James is a unique individual. Fiennes I also interviewed but think he is mellowing somewhat.

    Will read your pages now…..


    September 22, 2010 at 2:29 pm

  4. Kes, I will reply in a post as I have a bit to say that is very relevant…..



    September 22, 2010 at 2:43 pm

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